As we go through our journey in life, we begin to compare ourselves to others in a myriad of ways. While it is normal for us to compare and can help us find improvement in ourselves, we tend to think that the grass is greener on the other side. Especially with social media, we compare our regular lives, filled with ups and downs, with others highlight reels. As a performer you tend to be a perfectionist and hypercritical when you see someone nail a move you've been having trouble with all week. Below are tips to help you stop comparing yourself so harshly and give yourself more compassion and grace
1) Realize every ones path is different- The first thing you have to remember is every ones path is different. Life has ebbs and flows and sometimes you have a good week or a bad week. It doesn't help to keep ruminating on the success you perceive someone else is having. Your path may be different or take a little longer, but as long as you keep going you will be a success.
2) Remember everyone has their own talent, including you!!! A message we all can receive is that you are wanted and needed. Your perspective and way of tackling your performance deserves to be seen as your own. Make it your own.
3) Use comparison as a way to improve and work on your craft- We are all going to compare ourselves to other people. That's normal. But use comparison to your advantage. If you are going to compare, just use it as a means to improve yourself.
4) Rewrite Mental Narrative- You can rewrite your narrative by having self reflection exercises. Wonder about why you are comparing yourself and write that down. Switch the narrative of envy to support. Give your teammate a compliment and even ask your teammates for help or support. That's what they are hear for
5) Practice self care and compassion toward yourself- Self care and compassion towards yourself goes hand in hand. You work hard as a performer and you deserve to give yourself compassion. You are learning a new skill, a new dance, a new ability or trick. You might not get it the first time, but you will if you keep trying. As long as you acknowledge the struggle and be compassionate of yourself throughout, you will be better.
You can do anything you put your mind too. Like Theodore Roosevelt stated "comparison is the thief of joy". With constant comparison and self criticism, you will feel deflated and inadequate. Then you won't even want to perform or try to see your vision out. You deserve to be seen as yourself authentically and you will perform beautifully if you practice and stop comparing yourself to other performers.